the most wonderful thing is the subconscious mind
Even though we may not realise it we are being controlled and manipulated by the programming of our subconscious minds. It is exactly how our subconscious mind is programmed that determines our actions, thoughts and predominant behaviours and is what is responsible for invoking the law of attraction.
We can use various tools which are available to us to enable us to effectively repogram ourselves to become the people we want to be. Affirmations are a good way to start, we write down in the present tense what it is that we want to be and then repeat it daily until our subconscious forces us to walk and talk and act that way. We begin the change from inside out and that is the way to effect permanent change.